Pole Dancing for Fitness

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Just hearing the words "Pole Dancing" congers up images of dark, smelly strip clubs and sleezy people.  Pole Dancing is certainly not anything that a "nice" woman would ever do.

Well, that has changed.  If you look at the recent surge in popularity of pole dancing it is not because of the erotic component.  Pole dancing has been discovered by fitness gurus and celebrities such as Eve Longoria and Kate Middleton, Marisa Tomei, Jennifer Aniston and Ellen Degeneres






,(click on this link to see a display of strength and acrobatics using a pole),  as a wonderful way to improve your muscle tone, balance, grace and self esteem.  If you think about it, a dancing pole has been around in a very acceptable format for many years.  I am speaking about the ballet barre.

Anyone who has ever taken a ballet class as a child is familiar with the barre attached to the wall.  Often the barre is placed against a mirror, so the students can observe their form as they attempt to emulate the movements performed by the instructor.

A ballet barre provides the student with a mechanism for support and balance while pushing their body to stretch and develop strength.  The barre is a tool without which many movements would take much longer to master.

The vertical pole for pole dancing provides the same type of support, just oriented differently.  It is now possible to go to pole dancing classes, where the emphasis is on fitness.  See the following video.






If you are too shy to take a class, you can purchase a pole, with video instructions, to learn in the privacy of your own home.  Amazon has a great selection of poles to choose from.







Having a pole at home is also useful to practice in privacy, even if you are taking classes.  Amazon offers all sorts of additional gear to help you with your pole dancing efforts, from slip resistant gloves and socks, to video classes.

So if you want to have a fun, new way to get into great shape, try out pole dancing.  The erotic elements are entirely optional.  You will, however, probably feel sexier just from having a more toned ans flexible body.

Let me know if you have done pole dancing and your results!  Here's to tighter abs and firmer arms!

Watches As Graduation Gifts, Free Shipping From Amazon

It is time (hehe) to think about getting gifts for the graduates in your life.

There are several reasons why watches are always such and popular and appreciated gift.  The first is that metaphorically, watches indicate the passage of one stage of life to another.  Few passages are as significant as going from a student to "adult" life.

Another reason is that watches are practical.  Almost everyone uses, or has used a watch at some point in their lives.  With today's selection, a watch can have many other applications beyond telling time.

Philip Stein Mother of Pearl, Diamond
 with Ostrich Strap, $1130.00 and free shipping

Fashion is also a consideration when looking for a watch.  There are dress watches, sport watches, watches that tell time in multiple time zones, stop watches, diving watches, the list goes on.  Even the least fashion conscious among us usually has several different style watches.

Citizen Eco Driven Bella Diamond Accented Watch
 List $495.00 now $371.25 and free shipping

Those of us who have 19 different pairs of black shoes most certainly has a variety of watches as well.  One is not going to wear a rough leather banded watch to a formal event for example.  

Casio Women's Baby-G Gray Whale
Digital Sport Watch, $67.00 and free shipping

Watches also offer a degree of intimacy without the implications of other types of jewelry.  You could feel very comfortable giving a friend  a watch, where a ring or pair of earrings would not be as appropriate.

Mulco Unisex  Bluemarine Swiss Movement Watch
List $365.00, now $235.00 and free shipping

Finally, watches are an item that a person holds onto.  When you give a gift of a watch to your graduate, you know that this is a gift that the recipient will enjoy for years to come.  

Citizen Men's Eco-Drive Titanium Watch
List $350.00 now $262.50

Surviving The Loss Of A Pet - Ode To Abby - Cats With FIP

Abby on the
counter in the kitchen

Losing a pet can be one of the most devastating events to happen to a person..If you have ever gone through the loss of a pet that you loved dearly, you know what I am talking about.  These sweet creatures are God's way of giving true unconditional love.  They don't care how you look, how much money you make, if you haven't brushed your teeth today, or even if you yelled at them for scratching the couch.

I have lost a number of pets through the years.  None of the losses was ever easy.  But losing my 5 year old Abigail was the worst.

Abby was the sweetest, funniest, most beautiful little cat I ever had.  She was a petite tortie long haired domestic cat.  Her eyes were the color of perfect Colombian emeralds.  Her  mouth was so tiny I could barely see in it to check her teeth.  She was so feminine, a true little girlie girl through and through.  When she walked down the hall, her tiny little back feet turned out like a well trained ballet dancers, and her full, gorgeous tail splayed open like the feathers in Vegas showgirls headdress.  She walked with such poise and grace the I would call her my Vegas show cat.  Occasionally I would put pearls around her neck, much to her disapproval!!.

Her tail was just a bit too short and she would catch site of it in her peripheral vision. She would squeak and chase that tail in frustration.  I hoped that she would eventually get used to it, for her sake, and she did.  Abby was also very timid with strangers, especially men.  Hearing a man's footfalls would send her running to her  favorite hiding place, a lower ledge of a side table covered with a floor length tablecloth.

We used to have a special time everyday in the afternoon when I would give her a brushing.  Abby would jump on top of the highest perch on the kitty condo and let me brush her all over.  If I forgot her brushing she would let me know by rolling on her back and chirpping at me until I got the message.  She loved getting her face and head brushed, and even enjoyed long strokes down her back.  Her gorgeous eyes would be half closed in contentment.

At night Abby would chase me into the bedroom and jump on the bed behind me so fast that occasionally I didn't realize that she was there and almost sit on her!  After rubbing up and down against my upheld arm she would settle on my left shoulder.  Her butt firmly entrenched, her soft tail would flutter onto my face and nose, wonderfully annoying.   In the morning I would find her sleeping on my flipflops beside the bed.   Then she would follow me into the bathroom and sit like a meerkat while I gave her adoring strokes on her head. Those pretty eyes of hers would just melt my heart.

Biffy and Abby approving the table setting

My second cat at the time, Biffy, would chase Abby in some pretty rambunctious play.  But Abby was quite adept in getting away from his roughhousing. She would often run and hide in a kitty bed that was enclosed, she was soo cute!!!

If you didn't get the idea by now I really loved this little animal. I lost her three years ago to FIP.  (check out the link to see an FIP article)  I had never heard of it at the time, and I spent unbelievable amounts of money with her in the best animal ICU in the area.  I also had a Reiki healer going into the hospital to work on her.  Despite suffering from two autoimmune diseases at the time, I was in twice daily contact with both her vets, and made the 45 minute trip daily to see her.  But despite all the best efforts, after two weeks she succumbed to the disease.

I was shattered.  A primal scream came out of me after I got off the phone with the Dr. telling me she had passed away. The hospital had called at 11:00 the night before to tell me she had a grand mal seizure.  They asked if I wanted to come and see her, the implication being that she would not last out the night.  I chose not to go in, believing that I would go the next day and stay with her till she passed.

I was overwhelmed with guilt.  For a solid 18 months afterward I could not speak about her without crying, not just getting teary eyes, but crying.  Did I let her suffer?  Was she angry with me not being with her in the end?  I just couldn't forgive myself for letting this precious little fluffy ball of love and joy die.

Finally I came to terms with what happened.  I realized that I had done everything humanly possible to save my little girl.  I knew that she knew it too.  And that she loved me.  Only now she was with my other beautiful pets in heaven.

Only recently did I summon up the courage to research FIP. I found that it is fatal 100% of the time.  This past year some new protocols been put into place that can offer any hope what so ever.  Once I read that material, I knew that I had done everything that I could to help little Abby.  I didn't euthanize her because she loved life so much, I just tried to keep her pain managed and let God take her.  I made tough decisions on my own about a creature I shared my everyday with.  I listened to my heart and to the best Vet in the world (I took her to Randy Caviness at the Integrative Animal Health Center in Bolton, MA, a homeopathic and conventional practitioner).  I still miss her terribly.  But I now have two new additions to the family, a silly little boy named Samuel Oscar.........

Sam taking a nap

and a little stray that showed up on my door step just as Abby went into the hospital named Kitty Kitty. 

Kitty Kitty looking cute

 I believe that God gives us trials to make us stronger, and losing a beloved pet was one of the worst culminations of a seriously bad time in my life.  Now I have three crazy four legged little boys to look out for, and although I miss Abby dearly, I have come to terms with it and have focused on enjoying what He has given me. Although I must admit to my eyes tearing up while I am writing this.

Please leave a comment if you had a similar heartbreak, and if you know anything more about FIP and any current treatments, or to just give me your opinion.

If you are broken hearted over losing a pet, there are some wonderful books that can help you deal with your grief.  

In Praise Of Gays

Chely Wright

I have had several odd things happen to me in the past few weeks that made me think of the plight of Gay Men and Woman in America and indeed the world.

First of all let me say that I am a straight, white female that lives in the Northeast.  So I am already a member of a relatively privileged segment of society.  Strictly by accident of birth.

In the last several weeks two specific eye openers occurred.  The first was a bit embarrassing.  I was  looking at a church  website I saw that one of their staff's profile said that a woman was living with her wife and 3 children.  I at first thought it was a typo.  Then it hit me like a ton of bricks.....she was talking about HER wife.  OOHHH.  Okay, she is gay.

Then I was watching a movie about Chely Wright.  She is a well known country and western star that at the age of 40, finally came out as a  gay person.  The movie illustrated this woman's internal struggle with coming out in a homophobic industry and risk loosing her fans and indeed, possibly her career.

I cannot imagine what sort of torture it must be to live with a very important part of your fundamental being, hidden.  Chely happens to be a very successful performer, but what about the average person.  The secretary at your doctors office.  The cashier at the local pharmacy.  The paralegal at your lawyers office.  How many of these folks cannot openly talk about their loved ones for fear of prejudice or some sort of retribution?

It seems that one has to first come to terms within their own heart about their sexuality.  Once they have been able to accept that they are gay, how do you tell family and friends?  It is no surprise to me that "gay enclaves" exist, such as Provincetown, MA.  These are areas where a gay person can walk with their loved one hand in hand and even kiss them publicly (like straight people do) without being stared at or denigrated.

I think that gay men and women have a lot more pressure on them, by virtue of an act of God, that made them be more attracted to their sex.  So along with the normal pressures of everyday life, gay folks have an additional strain that straight people cannot comprehend.

Yet despite this pressure there are so many highly productive gay people in every aspect of our society.  Doctors, scientists, engineers, teachers, athletes, that list could go on and on. This illustrates an ability to go beyond what life has dealt you and succeed.  I think it shows courage of a nature that is just not in the average straight folks vernacular.

If you would like to support the greater understanding and acceptance of gays worldwide, you may want to check out Love and Pride.  It is a company owned and run by gays, for every body.  Every purchase from Love and Pride goes to support organizations such as The Matthew Shepard Foundation, Human Rights Campaign, The Mercury Phoenix Trust, and Marriage Equality USA.  So do a little public service while you shop.

Click on this banner to be taken directly to their website.

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